It wouldn’t all fit in the subject, and still look pretty … so for those that aren’t deep in the bowels of my mind (feel fortunate) … where do we go from here?
It’s quite obvious that I’ve completely failed at life when it comes to actually taking the time to write on this blog. I’m going to try to do this … I promise. Just don’t hate me if I don’t.
A lot’s going on since the last time I posted. A lot of good. A lot of bad. A lot of “should have happened sooner”, and a lot of “I can’t wait for it to happen” things. For the sake of keeping personal life personal, I won’t share it all here … if you really want to know … and should know … you already know how to get a hold of me and ask. So, with that, some updates …
I’ve come to the understanding, more so than I had before, that I’ve got a pretty awesome team of people working with me at Tapjoy. Some shifts and changes to the way that we worked were necessary, and because of it I’ve seen a drop in morale and “want” to do the job. It really puts it into perspective the amount of dedication and passion that people have for their work. I’m looking forward to being the one to lead the charge to get our business to fully understand exactly what it is we do, why we do it, and the time we spend doing it. If I don’t – who will?
We’re getting to the time where the results of year-end reviews will be released. So I’m excited and nervous to see where that leads for me. Since September, I’ve had a lot of more responsibility piled in my lap which I’ve been happy to take on, but I’m ready for the company to hopefully recognize the very dramatic shift in my responsibilities and the obstacles I’ve had to overcome to be able to take on a lot of things I had no experience in.
Traveling seems to be a new thing. I was in Phoenix not long ago to install some servers for Tapjoy, and now I’m off to Mexico in just a few short days for on on-site vendor visit. I’m excited to go, and can’t wait to see what I find … but it’s a lot of traveling in a short amount of time. Maybe I’ll just become accustom to jet setting around the globe?
I’ve also made the decision that one way or another I’m going to find time to go back to school … just not sure what for yet … and not sure where. With a full-time job (that expands more than 40 hours per week), it’s going to be tough, but worth it in the end. I’m eager to learn again.
So on to the meat and potatoes …
A friend of mine posted something on Facebook this afternoon that I found quite interesting. It’s a list of the “45 Ultimate Tips for Men“. I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t expecting it to be 45 ways to bolster your masculinity while attracting the opposite sex, but I was pleasantly surprised. These 45 tips (changing a few words here or there) can most certainly apply to either gender, and is independent of sexual orientation.
There was a few things in this list that really stood out to me. The title of the article mentioned that #40 will help you go far in life. Let’s start there.
#40: Don’t change yourself just to make someone happy, unless that someone is you.
This is a tough pill to swallow sometimes. Most people are eager to please. But, is changing yourself for the sake of someone else really worth it? This is something, in the last few weeks, that I’ve had to come to terms with myself. No, it’s not. Because what happens when someone else comes along? Are you going to change for them too? Eventually you’re going to lose who you are, and be nothing more than a mannequin. Be yourself. Love yourself. Change for yourself.
#2: Never have sex with anyone who doesn’t want it as much as you.
Dig into this a bit. Get your mind out of the gutter, drop the word sex … hell, replace it with just about anything. Do you, and involve people that are as excited about it as you are.
#19: If you aren’t confident, fake it. It will come.
Not sure I can add much more to this. The truth of truths.
#25: Ask more than you answer. Everybody likes to talk about themselves.
This is something I’ve come to learn over the past 6 months, more than I have at any other point in my life. Ask. Ask. Ask. Ask. Ask. Asking a question doesn’t always mean you don’t know the answer … you could be helping someone else with their own ability to think things through. To see the big picture. To think outside the scope of the conversation. Nothing but good can come of this.
#34: No matter their job or status in life, everyone deserves your respect.
I’ve always grown up hearing “Respect is earned.” No. No it’s not. Everyone deserves your respect. Everyone deserves the opportunity to lose your respect, through their own actions and doings. Treat everyone with equal respect, and you’ll be amazed at life.
#38: Never stop learning.
My thoughts? Never stop learning.
#41: If you’re the smartest person in the room, you’re in the wrong room.
These past 6 months, I’ve found myself sitting in conference rooms with the Chiefs at Tapjoy. Watching how they approach our business is awe-inspiring. It’s motivating. It’s amazing. Surround yourself with smart, intelligent people. It’s the best way to learn.
#1: Go for (wo)men you perceive to be “out of your league.” You’ll surprise yourself.
Rejection isn’t a fault of yours, it’s a fault of the one who rejects you. “Go for the gusto.” You truly will be amazed at what can happen when you just be yourself, let your hair down, and take a chance.
Reading through this list made me think to myself just how true every single one of these things is. What most people forget, is just how important we are to ourselves. We tend to put others before ourself, and we lose sight of what we want, what we need, what makes us happy, and what motivates us to be better for ourselves. Don’t lose sight of that. Don’t lose your grip on your own personal reality. You’ll be sorry you did, because eventually it’ll be so far gone that you’ll never get it back.
Listen, kiddies … do you. Do. You. Make your own happiness. Don’t take no for an answer. Don’t settle for second best. You deserve the world … but don’t expect it to be handed to you on a silver platter. You’re going to have to work for it, and the only way you’re going to be successful is by being yourself, and by being happy. Do you.